Just like wine, some friendships get better with age.
Destiny and I have known each other since our freshman year of college, and have been friends ever since. After our first year we both parted from the school we were at I went on to attend Michigan State University, and Destiny went back to New York City.
Like most friends do, I promised we would keep in touch and I’d visit her no matter where we ended up in life.
I stuck with that promise.
After ditching the dream of fashion school, Destiny took up journalism, a passion for writing which had connected us from the very start. Through writing and life experiences, Destiny decided that she was going to backpack across the U.S. and found herself on the opposite coast in Venice Beach, California.
It was the middle of the day, I was folding my freshly washed laundry when I saw her name flash up on my screen. I answered with part concern, part excitement like “OMG HEYYY” we did a quick catch up, and Destiny asked me a simple question, ”
How’s your social media branding going? Did you ever start your blog like you wanted to? I remember you talking about wanting to do it, what’s stopping you?”
The only logical answer I had at the time was, nothing.
Nothing, but excuses. Nothing was stopping me from getting it done, I just wasn’t in the mindset to create content and channel my energy into blogging.
“Oh, I’ve been so busy with work, and things…”
“Come visit me in Santa Barbara, I have this really great opportunity that may inspire you to really get the ball rolling.”
So we finished with girl talk and cracking unfunny jokes about current events, laughing about everything we used to.
Immediately after I got off the phone I booked my flight.
2 weeks later, I landed in LAX, riding in a Lyft looking up at the palm trees feeling like the Fresh Prince of Belaire.
That was the first of many new roads Destiny and I would take on our road trip to Santa Barbara for a girls weekend getaway.
We connected our iPhones through the MyLink system in the car and started on the California highway from Los Angeles to Santa Barbara.
After a comfortable drive down the California coastline, we arrived at the Bacara Resort tucked away on the rocky cliff side overlooking miles of open blue sea.
We spend two days like treated like SoCal queens, treated lavish facial and spa treatments, Oceanic walking trails, and winery tours.
I met amazing women who had made a name for themselves through blogging, and social media. It was amazing to see how everyone did things their own way and how they ended up where they are today.
On the morning of our departure, I had the opportunity to meet with Suzanne, the Editor In-Chief of The Chalkboard Mag at brunch. A simple conversation about my curly fro led to a meaningful connection that sparked a conversation about natural hair and what it means to be natural.
A few weeks later I was blessed to be featured in The Chalkboard Mag spilling my heart out in a piece I wrote A Naturalista’s Guide To Hair Goals & Self-Love
On the ride home, Destiny had fallen quiet and with tears in her eyes, she told me she was happy that I was her friend, and that I had come all the way to California to come to this event with her.
It’s funny because I was thinking the exact same thing.
Those simple words meant so much because I was happy we had both made the effort to see each other even after we lived on opposite ends of the country. Being able to have friends that connect you with the right people and push you to follow your dreams is truly invaluable. Destiny, is the epitome of what it means to be a millennial entrepreneur and I am so incredibly proud of everything she has accomplished in life. I am proud to call her my friend, and I cannot thank her enough for the love and support she’s given me since the awkward age of seventeen.
1,436 miles between us, and I’ll always go the distance for our friendship.
No matter where life takes us, we are constantly encouraging growth professionally, and spiritually and always finding new roads along the way.
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